I was thinking about this word today. And it reminded me of my absolute favorite part of the book, The Shack. I can't find my copy so I am going to cheat and copy and paste it off the internet.
Emotions just are. They are neither bad nor good; they just exist... Most emotions are responses to perception- what you think is true about a given situation. If your perception is false, then your emotional response to it will be false too. So check your perceptions, and beyond that check the truthfulness of your paradigms- what you believe. Just because you believe something firmly doesn't make it true. Be willing to reexamine what you believe. The more you live in the truth, the more your emotions will help you see clearly.
Wow! It still sort of amazes me how those words wrap around my brain and make me think about all of the mis-perceptions that I have on any given day. I am probably the queen of them. I constantly read into things way too much and then I am sure my mis-reactions reflect that falsely.
I had lunch yesterday with a friend who tried to tell me last June where my marriage was going to end up. I immediately viewed her response(which was that my ex was having an affair) as her projecting her own life story onto me. Instead of listening to her, I shut myself off from her, her ideas, her family and quite frankly I was angry. Now looking back, I wasn't really angry at her. I was angry because I think deep down I knew that what her perception of our situation was, was probably correct. Perception is a tricky thing in relationships. Every single relationship and interaction we have, have two perceptions at least and sometimes more depending on how many people are involved. It can get very confusing and beliefs can be skewed. I apologized to my friend yesterday. I explained my perception to her and how very wrong I was to have judged her and basically written her off. It is good to know that I have forgiving friends. That is what she did, because she loves me. I love her and missed her and look forward to putting this behind us.
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